DO THIS if you fear disappointment

“Be kind to one another.” -- Ellen Degeneres

It has always seemed obvious to me what Ellen was saying with these words: Be kind to your fellow man.

Until, one afternoon when I heard it differently.

It had been a day where self-doubt and pressure crept in and my mind spun with thoughts like . . .   

“Ugh. This didn’t get this done!"

And, “What if this doesn’t happen?”

I flipped on Ellen in hopes of laughing and tuning out the mind spin.

And, then, something weird happened.

It was as if Ellen reached through the TV, grabbed me by the shoulders, looked me dead in the eye and said, “Be kind to one another."


Am I being KIND to ME?

Self-kindness can feel easy for any of us to forget sometimes.

Especially if there’s something you really want and you’re afraid of it not happening.

Even some of the world’s most successful people have moments of doubt and fearing disappointment.

Ellen is about to release her first stand-up special in 15 years. Do you think she hasn’t had a single moment of fear or doubt?

She has.

So, what does she do?

What do WE do when doubt or fear creeps in?


Gather up all of the love and kindness that you can find in yourself and in the Universe and turn it to YOU.


Tell yourself everything is gonna be alright.

Notice fear and meet it with LOVE.

Feel disappointment and write yourself notes of kindness.

Speak words of ENCOURAGEMENT over criticism.

Tell yourself that you’re doing your best, and that’s AMAZING.

Practice KINDNESS.

And as you’re reading this, imagine me reaching through your screen, grabbing you by your shoulders, looking you dead in the eye and reminding you, Be kind to one another.

Big hugs to you,

PS: Self-Compassion is one of The Nine Elements of Unstoppable Ease that I’m teaching in my January masterclass, Unstoppable Ease.

It’s gonna be a small group with lots of hands-on coaching, connection and support with practices like self-kindness. I’d love for you to join us, which you can do right here