Money and I haven’t always had a good relationship.
I used to believe that money made me work really hard, like stressed-out, overwhelmed, feeling sick work-hard, for just a little bit of money love.
Sometimes I wondered if money and I just weren’t compatible.
Other times I feared that maybe I’d be stuck in this money relationship forever.
Looking back I can clearly see that money was never the issue.
My fear-based beliefs about money formed my sucky relationship.
Thankfully, I dumped my old beliefs and my relationship with money changed big time. Now, my relationship with money feels so good, and solid and based in ease.
For many, relationship struggles with money abound and just thinking about money can feel exhausting, frustrating, or painful, but it doesn’t have to be this way.
You have the ability to create the relationship you want with money.
It starts by identifying the beliefs you want to dump, then honing in on money beliefs that feel amazing, and practicing those thoughts and feelings to attract more of those thoughts and feelings.
When you do this the way you interact with money and how it flows in and out of your life changes.
Why does this work?
Just like with people. Have you ever experienced a time when someone was pissed or impatient and the energy was so palpable that you could feel it even without knowing what was going on? Sometimes that energy makes others around them get pissed and impatient too, right? Energy.
On the flip side, can you think of a time when someone was kind, secure, open, and joyful and everyone seemed drawn to them? Well, isn’t that energy really attractive?
Money works the same way.
Alright, let’s get started shifting your energy and creating the money relationship you want.
Go get a piece of paper or your journal so that you can write during this exercise.
STEP ONE: DUMPING BELIEFS
This is relationship status time. You and money are in a relationship, and unless it is over-the-moon amazing, then it’s time to see what beliefs you’re ready to dump.
So, how’s it going between you two? Spill your guts on paper about this relationship. Don’t hide any details, just lay it out there.
Are you pissed, desperate, resentful, or uninterested? Why?
What do you want it to change? Why?
Now write down how it feels, like the emotions that come up for you as well as physical sensations in your body.
Take note of the energy you have around money right now.
STEP TWO: WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Now it’s time to hone in on money beliefs that feel amazing to you and identifying how you want to feel.
Imagine that we’ve wiped the slate clean.
I know it’s not easy to dump your money beliefs, especially when they’ve been around forever, but for this exercise just pretend that you dumped them and you’re starting anew.
What do you want your relationship with money to be like? This is your ideal.
Here’s the key: Don’t think about how you could create this relationship, but focus on what you want to feel.
If you’re feeling stuck in this exercise, then look at what’s not working from step one and consider the opposite.
For example, if you feel desperate and believe that money is always a struggle, then you may want to feel secure and believe that money is never a struggle.
Write out your ideal relationship right now, paying attention to how it would feel.
This is energetically aligning you with the feelings you want with money.
STEP THREE: ATTRACTING YOUR MONEY MATE
This is when you start attracting more of those thoughts and feelings that you identified from step two.
You should now have a description of your ideal relationship with money. Let’s zero in a bit more.
Circle all of the feelings (freedom, joy, security, abundance, etc.) you described.
What’s the best feeling in the list?
Let’s just say that it’s freedom. Take that feeling and look at your life right now.
Do you feel freedom anywhere in your life right now?
If not, that’s okay. Is there anything that you could do today to create the feeling of freedom?
For example, when I’m driving with the windows down listening to “See the World” I feel a huge amount of freedom, joy and expansiveness. It feels like anything is possible.
Then, I think things like… wow, isn’t this amazing? I love this view. I love this drive. I love this music. I love this feeling.
This is one way that I drink my freedom juice.
I might link it back to money by thinking… I love how everything always works out for me. Anything is possible—absolutely anything. I’m so grateful for everything that I have right now.
It’s WAY easier to find these types of thoughts when I’m already feeling the freedom vibe with my music than if I tried to jump there from fear and scarcity.
So, how does this link back around to changing your relationship with money?
When you practice your new beliefs and do what feels amazing, you’ll start to see money with new eyes. You might have new ideas, greater confidence, or be offered an amazing opportunity.
And then, sooner than you may imagine, it will feel like the money relationship you’ve always wanted.