Have you ever been in a situation where so much time passed without talking to a friend that you didn’t know what to say?
Ever have one of those moments where you think that you’re on top of everything and then… you realize you’re wrong?
This happened to me for one of the biggest assignments in my Master Coach Training program.
We were to write a magazine article that would be read by Martha Beck herself—you know, O Columnist and author of books that profoundly impacted my life—AND receive her feedback.
I've walked through grief several times in my life.
The first time was when I was eight-years-old and suddenly lost my grandpa. I still miss him to this day.
Another time was in my mid-twenties when I lost a close friend to Leukemia. I never thought she would die.
Recently, I made the walk through grief again.
This time was a pregnancy loss.
We were expecting our second child. I was due in late April, which happened to coincide precisely with the pregnancy one of my best friends. I was so excited. Having babies at the same time! A new member of the family! Olivia is going to be a big sister!
When the calendar turns over to a new year I feel a sense of new beginnings and dream about what I want to create, do, or change in my life for this year.
I write down my goals.
I create a plan.
I get excited.
Then... I begin to doubt.
"That's too big. It probably won't happen."
"How in the hell would I accomplish that?"
"Where am I going to find the time to do this?"
Crappy thoughts that become roadblocks to dreams.
We all have them.
“If someone ever says ‘trust me’ – don’t trust them.” – Bob Foreman (aka: my dad)
I’m sure my dad was thinking of insurance salesmen or drug traffickers when he said these wise words.
And yet, when you think about it, most of us live our lives doing just the opposite.
We trust the voices of the world that say “trust me” even when it feels slimy or like prison.
“(Trust me) Quitting your job would be a huge mistake.”
“(Trust me) People don’t make money at that profession.”
“(Trust me) Working yourself to death is the only way to succeed.”