If you're feeling like "there's no time"

Recently, it’s felt like there’s no time.

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My time for writing, responding to emails, and moving forward on projects has been squeezed down to what has felt like nothing.

The culprit?

Summer camp.

For the last six weeks I’ve spent roughly 30 minutes driving my daughter to camp, and then driving another 30 minutes to drop my other daughter off at her daycare and then driving back home.

Twice a day.

You did the math, didn’t you? Well, I can’t tell you how many times I’VE added up the driving hours as EVIDENCE of the lack of time I’ve had to get stuff done.

Did I fully embrace the hours in the car and find ease and acceptance with getting fewer things done each day?

Sorta... no, not really.

Sure, I made the best of the drive-time with some incredible audio books, music, and “car dancing” with my daughter -- we’ve had a lot of fun -- but that didn’t override the strong feeling I had everyday that I WASN’T DOING ENOUGH.

That FEELING was the bump in the “ease road.” It wasn’t what I was DOING, or in this case NOT doing that created the bump.

It was the FEELING of “not enough” and the “time is short” story I was telling myself that created stress and an unconscious desire to hustle.

Truth is: I didn’t have a time shortage. I still don’t.

I had a self-compassion shortage.

I had a feeling-into-what-I-want-like-it’s-already-done shortage.

I had a being in each present moment shortage.

I just couldn’t see it because the “time shortage” story was soooo convincing! I had the hours, the miles driven, and empty gas tanks to PROVE my story of time shortage.

This also made it hard for me to see how the summer schedule was serving me. This schedule helped me have a deeper understanding of this:

There is no time shortage. The FEELING and ENERGY behind any action is more important than the time given. When you feel empowered, abundant, and expansive then you’re influencing what you’re doing with your energy, so it can take very little time and action to create what you want.

Once I remembered this, FELT THIS and mentally dropped my “time shortage” story, time seemed to bend. A project I thought would take me an hour to finish took 15 minutes.

I accessed this feeling and knowing after I gave myself a lot of self-compassion.

So, if you’re feeling time shortage, give yourself some grace.

You might have a self-compassion shortage or a giving-yourself-some-credit shortage, so be kind to yourself and give yourself some credit for doing your best.

Then, tell yourself this:

There is no time shortage. Challenges are happening for me, not to me. I can relax into this. I can find the empowerment of knowing there is no time shortage. I can bend time by feeling empowered, abundant, and expansive.

Do you feel how empowering that is?

That’s when you begin to bend time.

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Ever ask yourself this?

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Do you ever have a case of “Who am I . . . to want this / have this / be this?” ?

Like, you think of your dream house and then stop yourself and think, “yeah, but who am I to have a house like that?”

Or, you think of raising your rates or asking for a salary increase and think, “yeah, but who am I to be asking for that much?”

OR, you embrace EASE, maybe working less and making more, and think, “who in the hell am I to be doing LESS and making MORE?”

Sarah, who are you not to have those things? It is only the egoic mind that says “who am I?” suggesting that you’re somehow less than someone, or will be seen as better than others. You’re not less than or better than anyone.

And, the thought in your head that asks, “who am I?” that’s not you. You’re not that thought. AND, you’re not the house you live in, or your income, job title, or car that you drive. You’re WAY MORE than all of those things combined. You -- in your core -- are a glorious BEING connected to all of life.

A piece of the Divine inhabiting your body, with your personality, experiencing all that life has to offer, and making magic on this earth for a little while. So, who are you NOT to experience your dreams? Who are you NOT to experience awe, wonder, excitement, joy, thrill, appreciation and love?

You, my friend, are worthy of it all NOW. You don’t need to "earn" it or work hard to "deserve" these feelings.

Whether you experience these feelings from the smell of a rose, the glow of a sunrise, an expansive view of rolling hills, or by getting the keys to your new house!

Let me say it again, you are worthy of it all -- from roses to boats -- you are worthy.

So, if the voice in your head asks, “who am I?” say back to it… “who am I NOT to enjoy this incredible, miraculous, magical life? Who am I not?”

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Stretch yourself + grow your biz (without working harder)

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Meet Meghan. 

Meghan is an entrepreneur who knows how to work hard. 

She’s also my client and right now Meghan wants CHANGE: change in her business, change in her mind, change in her body. 

She wants to stretch herself, but she’s tired of the old way of long-hours and exhaustion. 

Recently she felt stuck, “I feel like I’m trying so hard, but nothing is working!” she said.

So, I asked, “How are your mindset practices, like your affirmations, going?” 

(LOUD SIGH) “I was doing them, but I quit. I just get pulled away with other stuff,” she said. 

“Got it. Okay, how about your meditation practice?” I asked.

“What meditation practice?” she said with a chuckle. “Ugh, Sarah, I was doing all of it for a while and it felt so good and then it just dropped off.” 

Meghan did what a lot of us do.

She ATTACKED the practices like they were a JOB, she got burnt out, dropped them, and went back to the same habitual thoughts and behaviors.

So, of course, she feels stuck.  

Here’s the thing: Stretching yourself, growing your business, and having things happen is just like stretching your muscles. 

Let me explain. 

If you want to experience the feeling of “release” in a muscle and lengthen the tissue you will get results by doing these three things: 

  1. HOLD the stretch. If you push and try to force a muscle to lengthen, you’ll likely be saying “ouch!” soon afterward.

  1. Make a commitment to stretch. 

  1. Be consistent in stretching everyday, ideally a couple times a day. It isn’t a one and done. It’s gently allowing a little bit of length at a time that adds up. 

If you want to experience the feeling of "release” in your mind, stretch yourself, and grow your business you will get results by doing the same practices. 

Let’s go over them again: 

  1. HOLD the stretch. Your “stretch” might be daily meditation, visualization or affirmations. "Hold" one of these practices for a certain amount of time. This means 5-20 minutes a day for, let's say, 21 days. Tell yourself it’s a “stretch” and you’re just staying there, holding the stretch. 

  1. Make a commitment to yourself to “stretch.” Creating new practices, even if they feel amazing, can be easy to forget. You’re making a PROMISE to yourself here, so use tricks to remind yourself, like putting it on your calendar or using sticky notes.   

  1. Be consistent in “stretching” everyday, ideally a couple times a day. Like I said, it isn’t a one and done. Just like a muscle, this is about gently releasing and allowing yourself to grow a little bit and over time that ADDS UP. 


Holding the stretch, being committed and consistent WILL get you results. You may see results within a week, or it may take longer, but stay with the practice.

Before long you’ll be telling me what you released and how you’ve stretched in your life and business. 

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PS: Not sure what practices to use for “stretching”? Join me this Wednesday, July 24th @ 10AM Pacific for a free course on Worthiness + Money. I’ll be sharing loads of practices to help you feel worthy of your desires and teach you how to attract more money (dial in info at the Facebook Group. Join here). I’m repeating this class due to a technical snafu, so I hope to see you there!

I don't wanna see you work

Old-school, fear-based rules seem to be everywhere. 

I often see them on my social feed and in my inbox from other coaches

Here’s a recent message that I found entertaining: 

“I don’t want to see you dance. I wanna see you work.” 

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Damn. I can’t dance and work at the same time? I guess I’m totally screwed. 

Or this one: 

“Do the hard work and then enjoy the rewards as you climb to the next level.”

I don’t know about you, but my old-school, hard-working, follow-the-rules mindset would have read that and thought, “Okay, I gotta buckle down, do the hard work, hustle my ass off, and then I’ll get the rewards. It will be totally worth it.”

This way of thinking took me down the path of self-doubt, exhaustion, sickness, dread and unhappiness. 

You know why? 

Because it’s FEAR-BASED.

The underlying message is: Work hard to avoid failure/poverty/shame. Afterward, you’ll feel good/be successful/and feast on the rewards.  

It’s sooooooooo convincing because it activates the PRIMAL, instinctive, overriding part of our brain that’s built for SURVIVAL. 

This part of our brain scans for threats in the form of lack (famine) or attack (cougar in the woods). It also sees the potential for “mistakes” or “failure” equally as threatening.

When this part of the brain is activated, the higher part of the brain that’s responsible for creativity, relationship building, compassion, and communication is essentially TURNED OFF. So, it actually MAKES IT HARDER to create, dream, and connect. 

IGNORE the old-school, fear-based rules.

You can make an impact, climb to the next level, grow your business, travel the world, write your book, do AMAZING THINGS from a LOVE-BASED, EMPOWERED fuel that doesn’t feel like hard work

It feels like passion, flow and ease.  

And it looks like a dance. 

We’re evolving beyond the archaic rules to CREATE, CONNECT and LEAD from the love-based, empowered, higher, conscious mind. 

Exercise your higher mind EVERY SINGLE DAY by telling yourself that YOU’RE LIMITLESS.

Imagine the possibilities as we do this. 

So, I don’t wanna see you work. I wanna see you DANCE! 

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Stress making you sick?

When I was a little girl I remember thinking how miraculous it seemed that when I got a cut that my body would form a scab, like it’s own Bandaid, and get to work healing itself.

Today, I’m amazed watching my daughter’s body heal from her recent bike accident.  She has stitches in her lip holding the wound together long enough for her body to do its job of healing itself.

Her body is healing so quickly that she looks different when she gets home from school than she did when I put her on the bus.

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Miraculous, isn’t it?

Trillions of cells all working together in harmony to keep the body alive and repair itself.

Until, it doesn’t feel like harmony and instead like headaches, indigestion, or illness.

When ease in the body turns into various forms of dis-ease.

The major culprit? STRESS.

Western and Eastern medicine agree that stress is one of the major causes of illness.

Stress prevents the body from going into its natural healing state.

In fact, stress works SO WELL at preventing the body from healing itself that surgeons will give transplant recipients a stress hormone before surgery to suppress their immune system and prevent their body from fighting off the transplanted organ.

And yet, many believe that if you’re “working hard,” “doing a good job,” and “contributing to your family” that you should be STRESSED because you CARE.

Many also believe that stress and busyness are indications of being SUCCESSFUL.

It’s another way of hustling for your worthiness.

All of these are cultural rules need to be questioned (read more on that here.)

Believing these types of cultural rules can create a cycle of wanting to feel worthy, working harder, feeling more stress, then wanting to feel worthy and repeating the cycle.

The rules and stress are costing us.

And, illness is one of the costs.

But, there is good news.

We CAN make shifts to question the rules and minimize stress to create an environment for healing and thriving.

It begins with more ease in the mind.

Here are a few suggestions to help create more ease in the mind + body:

  1. Meditation: It’s free and always available to you. Meditation decreases stress hormones and allows the body to heal itself, sleep better, think better, and feel better emotionally. Check out the “Mindful” section of Ease magazine for a guided meditation with Deepak Chopra.

  2. Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR): Founded by Jon Kabat-Zinn, MBSR is an 8-week, evidence based program proven to help reduce stress, anxiety and illness. The 8-week course is now available at Sounds True so you can do it from home, although in-person has the added benefit of community support. Check it out here.

  3. Write your own rules. Did you read my article? Here it is again. This one isn’t a quick and dirty solution. It takes practice, but holds the potential for you to feel empowered in your life.

  4. Practice self-compassion: We can be so dang hard on ourselves. A stressful situation can turn into mentally replaying and beating ourselves up for it. Instead, reach for compassion. Here. are some self-compassion meditations and exercises.

  5. Get help from an expert: If your stress levels are high enough that you’re having trouble functioning throughout a normal day, it’s time to seek some help. You can begin by asking for referrals from your primary care physician or check out a local wellness center to see if they have mental health care available.


If you want some help sorting things out, like life transitions, questioning cultural rules, or pursuing something new, find a coach. You can schedule a Discovery Coaching session with me here to get started.

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