The last month-ish felt like it kicked my ass.
It started with a sick kid that kept me up at night, a few stressful family situations, another kid home sick from school, then dental work that led to a root canal(!), and “feedback” that… ugh… sucked.
All this while running my business, taking care of kiddos, trying to connect to my husband, making dinners, planning a birthday party, getting our roof replaced, and trying to squeeze in some self-care too. You get the idea.
If you’re struggling, or feeling like Ease is stupid impossible right now, it’s alright.
You’re not alone and this feeling is not forever.
The tricky bit about...
For many, confidence is hit or miss.
And it can really be a tricky target when in a phase of growth. That’s what my client, Dani, experienced when she was asked to consider moving into a Director role in her work.
Dani’s been wanting to grow as a leader and to contribute to her company in new ways, but she’s also felt crushing fear.
In a recent meeting, she feared that she didn't know what she was doing, that others were able to think faster, and that she could make big mistakes that could even get her fired.
Her confidence sank and she became completely overwhelmed, only adding to her fear that she wasn’t capable of doing the role. This cycle of fear, stress, overwhelm and back to fear seemed like a trap she couldn’t escape.
We shifted it, though.
I asked Dani to imagine herself as...
Happy New Year! I hope that 2020 is treating you well so far!
Okay, I have a question for you (and please feel free to reply with your answers!)…
Let’s take our time with this one.
Close your eyes.
Imagine yourself in January 2021 looking back on 2020 and thinking about what kind of year you experienced.
And… psst… don’t hold back from dreaming really good stuff! You are limitless and life is full of amazing surprises, so imagine what could be possible in 2020.
Write down your answers. Better yet, respond to this email right now with your answers (that increases the momentum of the energy you just created).
When I was a little girl we’d drive out to my grandpa’s house every Christmas Eve.
We’d take the “back roads,” which were all country, leading us from the Portland suburbs and deep into Oregon farmland.
The entire drive would be pitch black, until we’d see a farmhouse completely lit up in Christmas lights.
It felt like a spectacle of lights put on just for us.
I’d squeal with excitement and press my face against the window while begging my dad to slow the car so that I could lock my eyes on the lights a little longer.
It all felt so simple and peaceful.
Kinda magical too.
For many of us, Christmas can feel more complex these days. Joy might sit right next to grief, or be tangled with stress, or fears of what’s next.
For some, it can feel more like a drive through darkness while still trying to wear a happy face.
There is still light, though.
A light that feels peaceful and, sometimes, kinda magical.
But it isn’t out the...
Did you see the last season of the Great British Baking show?
And, did you catch what David said in the beginning of the last episode?!
I’ll fill you in.
David was considered the underdog in the finale having never won star baker. Steph and Alice had both won star baker several times and definitely seemed to be (let’s be honest) stronger bakers.
That’s when I put my money on David (and I totally wanted Steph to win).
David visualized winning. He replayed it in his head and experienced the win before walking into the tent. And he did this for 10 YEARS!
We all day-dream, but unfortunately many of us are unconsciously day-dreaming about what we fear will happen or what we want to avoid.
Consequently, this can easily trigger a stress response in the mind and body, and even create the very scenario...
I vividly remember the day that I got the keys to my first apartment.
It was a studio, probably 400-square feet and I LOVED IT. I had my OWN place. My own kitchen, my own bathroom, and my own front door where I could hang a wreath at Christmas time.
It felt like I was living the dream. Until, I thought that having a one-bedroom would be nice.
A year or so later, a one bedroom in my apartment building opened up and I snatched that opportunity, moved down the hall and I LOVED IT. I had a proper living room, larger kitchen and a hallway to my bedroom!
Several years later my husband (actually, he was my fiancé at the time) and I bought our first house together.
That house -- our very first home purchase -- was a brand new home. It was a townhouse with super eco-friendly everything, a staircase to the...
Question: What comes to mind when I say “Living and working with Ease”?
Do you imagine lying on the couch, eating popcorn, watching the Great British Baking Show, and magically manifesting your dreams?
A lot of people think this is what “Ease” looks like.
So, they try “Ease” for a little while, often feeling guilty for the indulgence of it all. Then, they notice that they’re not accomplishing much, other than another completed season of Bake Show.
Ease feels like presence, connection to your Inner Being, and flow. It feels like, well, ease.
Let me tell you a little story.
I have this client, Meghan.
She’s a total badass in so many areas of her life. She started her own thriving business, she’s a loving mom, she’s smart, creative, funny -- you get the picture -- she’s awesome.
But, Meghan is also super hard on herself.
She wants to deliver her “best” work to her business because she secretly fears looking like an idiot if things don’t go well.
She also wants to be the “best” mom to her kids because she loves them so much and thinks that’s what they deserve.
And she gets all of the goods that come with being human. Like, being imperfect. She gets tired and frustrated. She makes mistakes. She doesn’t know what to do. She gets annoyed by her kids.
Then, she beats herself up for it.
A lot of us, like Meghan, forget that we’re imperfect humans. We forget to cut...
“What in the hell am I doing?” Do you ever ask yourself this?
You’re not alone.
A lot of us don’t actually know what we’re doing when we’re in the middle of doing something.
We’re busy throughout our day, going from one thing to the next, thinking about what we “should” be doing, but not considering what we’re doing and why we’re doing it.
It’s often fear-driven and repetitive, and can lead to feelings of stress and overwhelm.
Even browsing social media can be an unconscious, fear-driven action that leads to stress and overwhelm.
Conscious action is intentional. You know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.
It’s intentional and often inspired, and can lead to feelings of eagerness, accomplishment, and ease.
If you ever feel discouraged, frustrated and majorly filled with self-doubt, you’re not alone.
Whether you’re trying to grow your biz or help your kids with their challenges, we can all find ourselves feeling self-doubt.
But, there are tools to help you shift out of those feelings and into feeling optimism, ease, and confidence!
Today we’re gonna talk about MINDSET, which is the first facet of the Formula for Ease. I’ll also give you TWO quick tools to help you shift your mindset for more ease.
Your mindset is the way you see the world. It is shaped by the thoughts you have about yourself and situations.
There are EMPOWERED mindsets and DISEMPOWERED mindsets.
In contrast, disempowered mindsets are more narrow, fixed, and limited in their perspective of possibilities.
Disempowered mindsets don’t...
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